THINK twice about the message that the Elf on the Shelf might be sending to your children – that is the advice from a former primary school teacher.
Emma Shingleton of education resource company PlanBee says the presence of the novelty elf can be overwhelming for kids.
She said: “Who doesn’t love Elf on the Shelf? The mischievous little fellow who encourages good behavior as Christmas excitement reaches fever pitch: the elves report back to Santa each night on whether children have been naughty or nice.
“Your children may ‘behave’ while Santa’s elf is keeping an eye on them, especially as it will result in presents as a reward for good behaviour. But what happens when your elf returns to Santa’s workshop and is no longer keeping a beady eye on what your child is up to?”
She said setting smaller, more manageable goals for children was easier to achieve.
“Do we really want our children thinking they’re being watched every moment of the day by these festive home invaders? Could the expectation be setting some children up to fail? If children don’t succeed, parents may even feel they need to follow through with sanctions such as removing presents.
“Parents can be forgiven for wanting children to be excited in the run up to Christmas, creating little scenes in which elves get up to mischief. Youngsters across the country wake up to find their cheeky little elf has been up to no good.
“But are these naughty elves sending the right message? Or are they encouraging the exact kinds of behaviour parents are actually wanting to avoid?”
Emma does not suggest scrapping the tradition altogether, but instead modelling behaviour parents would like to see and supporting children to make good choices.
“Instead of a naughty elf, what about a helpful elf? Explain to your children that Santa’s elf has been sent to homes to help them in the run-up to Christmas. They love to see children spreading kindness and joy, and then make the journey back to the North Pole each night to tell Santa all the lovely things children have been up to.
“Try to focus on positive behaviour instead of negative and allow children space to make better choices.
“Perhaps your elf visitor needs to be taught how to do some helpful jobs around the house; the children could teach them, or even learn alongside their elf companion. The elf could be seen making funny mistakes around the home, which children need to help them correct. Maybe he can’t reach the soap to wash his hands and needs to be shown how to do it correctly.
“Why not steer your elf away from naughty antics and focus on helpful gestures instead? Get the elves to model the behaviour you want to see, rather than the behaviour you are trying to discourage.
“The possibilities are endless, and encourage children to choose to do good because they want to, and not because they will get a reward at the end.”
Visit https://tinyurl.com/fbwcvpwy for PlanBee’s 25 Elf on the Shelf ideas.